Develop patience and tolerance with the advice of clergy. How to learn patience and humility. How to learn patience and overcome extreme despair
Where does forgiveness begin? If someone is wrong, should they denounce or remain silent? Is it possible to receive communion if you have not forgiven everyone? Archpriest Vitaly Vesely, rector of the Seraphim Church of Gorlovka, talked to us about how to learn to accept and tolerate those whom you do not want to accept and tolerate.
Usually people learn from someone. Orthodox person, in my opinion, it is natural to learn from the Lord Himself. The way He forgave and forgives - including. But first of all, you need to learn to seek forgiveness from God. And for this He gave us various means: the sacraments of confession and communion of the Holy Mysteries of Christ, regular participation in divine services and private prayer (that is, at home, or in cells).
The whole point of worship comes down to the words “Lord, have mercy!” We constantly seek God's mercy and His forgiveness. And only in this way, striving for His forgiveness and using all means for this, can we draw closer to Him. And in communication with the Lord, we will learn to tolerate the shortcomings of our neighbors and build relationships with them.
Naturally, in our environment there is different people: both churched and unchurched, both Orthodox and non-churched. And all with different characters. They can offend, insult, slander, and cause great inconvenience. Sometimes it is very difficult to withstand all this, especially patiently. But, nevertheless, the Lord endured and endures everyone, so we should also try to be like Him in this as much as possible. And if it’s difficult, still force yourself to forgive.
The Lord says: “The kingdom of God suffers violence, and those who use force take it away.”(Matt. 11:12). You need to force yourself to do good, and to forgive too. Through “I don’t want.” Then the Lord will forgive many of our sins. We don’t know how difficult it is for the Lord to endure our sins, but He forgives us, which means we must try too.
There are situations when it is impossible to forgive. In such cases, it can be useful to pause in communication. Betrayal and betrayal are special circumstances when it is really difficult to find the strength for acceptance or forgiveness. It is especially difficult when a person does not even realize that he caused pain and does not try to correct what he did. He thinks that everything is fine, and maybe even sees that we are wrong in the situation. Of course, we still need to pray for such a person, so that the Lord will change his heart towards us, enlighten him, and let him see the mistake. But until it works out, there is no need to force yourself to forgive. We need to take a break in communication and meet less often.
They ask what to do in such a situation: a person is working to forgive, wants to frequently confess and receive communion, in order to overcome resentment and hostility with the help of these sacraments. Before the prayer of permission, the priest asks: “Do you forgive everyone everything?” What to answer if you haven’t forgiven yet? Is it possible to receive communion?
I think that in the sacrament a person receives the strength he needs to fight his weaknesses. And it seems to me that there is no hypocrisy in the answer “yes, I forgive,” because we want to forgive, we are in the process of fighting with ourselves. This process can continue throughout life - what then, not take communion at all? On the contrary: you need to take communion, because it is impossible to forgive on your own, only with God.
What to do if the problem of hostility towards the shortcomings of your neighbor arose in the family? How to behave? Talk about your grievances or rejection of some traits of your loved one? I think you can point out to people their shortcomings, but you need to do it with maximum delicacy so as not to offend or offend.
It is very important to remember your own shortcomings. Perhaps if we think about them before speaking, it will give us caution and tact. And no matter how difficult it is, we must try to approach our neighbors with humility. Sometimes you want to denounce, do it pathetically, with triumph, but first it is better to try to acquire humility, fight your pride, and then you won’t want to denounce. You will begin to carefully correct and heal the shortcomings of your neighbors, with God’s help.
Flaws are always easy to see. And you try to discern virtues. Find them! It is always easy to sin, but forcing yourself to do a truly good deed is difficult. But this is a good deed if we try to see good qualities in an unpleasant person. Don't be lazy about this. You need to try to motivate yourself to do this kind of work.
And, of course, do not give up spiritual work on yourself, because without the grace of God, it is impossible to cope with either your own shortcomings or the shortcomings of your neighbors on your own. And the grace of God teaches a person how to act correctly in a given situation, how to forgive. Helps with this, gives strength. Therefore, you should always pray. Even if you have already entered into a conflict, the main thing is to wake up, stop and try to nullify the storm - if possible, of course. And if the opposite side does not want reconciliation, then only prayer and spiritual struggle remain.
Recorded by Ekaterina Shcherbakova
What is humility? Not everyone can answer this question unequivocally. Despite this, many consider humility to be the main virtue of a true Christian. It is this quality that the Lord values most in a person.
Some may have the impression that human humility leads to poverty, oppression, depression, poverty, and illness. They humbly endure their current situation and hope for a better life in the Kingdom of God. In fact, all this is far from humility. The Lord sends us difficulties not so that we put up with them, but so that we overcome them. Belittling one's own dignity, stupid humility, depression and despondency are rather signs false humility.
And yet, what is humility?
Biblical humility. An Example of Humility
The Bible Encyclopedia says that humility is pride. This virtue is considered one of the main ones in Christianity. The humility of a person lies in the fact that he relies on the mercy of the Lord in everything and clearly understands that without Him he cannot achieve anything. A humble person never puts himself above others, with joy and gratitude he accepts only what the Lord gives him, and does not demand more than he is entitled to. prescribe this virtue to all true followers of Christ. Jesus showed the highest degree of humility by submitting completely. For the sake of all mankind, He endured terrible suffering, humiliation and money-grubbing. He was crucified, but after the resurrection He did not even have the slightest resentment against those who did it, since He realized that all this was God’s work. In other words, a person’s Christian humility is manifested in his complete dependence on the Lord and in a realistic view of his essence. As a result of this, a true understanding comes that one should not think highly of oneself.
What is the essence of humility?
What is humility? Spiritual leaders are asked this question all the time. They, in turn, give different understandings of this definition, but the essence is the same for all. Some argue that humility consists in the fact that a person immediately forgets about what he has created good deeds. In other words, he does not take credit for the result. Others say that a humble person considers himself the worst sinner. Some say that humility is a mental recognition of one's powerlessness. But these are far from complete definitions of the concept of “humility.” More accurately, we can say that this is a grace-filled state of soul, a real gift from the Lord. Some sources speak of humility as the Divine robe in which the human soul is clothed. Humility is the mysterious power of grace. There is another definition of humility, which says that it is a joyful, but at the same time sad self-abasement of the soul before the Lord and other people. It is expressed by inner prayer and contemplation of one’s sins, complete submission to the Lord and diligent service to other people.
Humility in life gives a person joy, happiness and confidence in Divine support.
How does dependence on the Lord manifest itself?
Two components in a person’s life give an understanding of the concept of “humility”. The first meaning is dependence on God. How does it manifest itself? There is an example in the Scriptures where the Lord calls a rich man “a fool.” Legend has it that once upon a time there was a rich man who had large reserves of grain and other goods. He sought to further expand his opportunities for greater accumulation, so that later he could only enjoy his wealth. But the Lord called him a “madman” because he chained his soul in slavery to his wealth. The Lord told him what he would do with this accumulated wealth if today he lost his soul? A bad fate awaits those who hoard goods for their own pleasure and not for the Lord. The modern situation of rich people is such that they want to undividedly enjoy their wealth, believing that they have achieved everything themselves, and that the Lord has nothing to do with it. These are real crazy people. No amount of wealth can protect a person from difficulties, suffering and illness. such people are completely empty, and they have completely forgotten about God.
Bible story
There is another story that teaches humility. One day the Lord invited a rich, pious young man to give all his wealth to the poor and go with Him in order to have real treasures in the Kingdom of Heaven. But the young man could not do this because of his attachment to property. And then Christ said that it is very difficult for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God. His disciples were amazed at this answer. After all, they sincerely believed that human wealth is, on the contrary, God’s blessing. But Jesus said the opposite. The fact is that material prosperity is indeed a sign of the Lord's approval. But a person should not become dependent on his wealth. This quality is the exact opposite of humility.
Truthfulness to yourself
The power of humility increases if a person adequately evaluates himself and puts himself in the right position. In one of the verses of the Holy Scriptures, the Lord calls people not to think highly of themselves. You need to think about yourself modestly, relying on the faith that the Lord has endowed all people with. You should not be arrogant towards others and you should not dream about yourself.
Most often, a person looks at himself through the prism of his achievements, which automatically causes a manifestation of pride. Material measures such as the amount of money, education, position are not the means by which a person should evaluate himself. All this is far from talking about one’s spiritual situation. You should know that it is pride that deprives a person of all divine graces.
The Apostle Peter compares humility and a modest attitude towards oneself with beautiful clothes. He also says that the Lord does not recognize the proud, but bestows His grace on the humble. The Scriptures mention the word “humility of mind,” which emphasizes modesty of thought. Those who exalt themselves and think that they represent something without connecting it with the Lord are in the greatest error.
Take everything as it comes
Humility is the ancestor of responsibility. The heart of a humble person accepts any situation and tries to solve it with all responsibility. A person with humility is always aware of his Divine nature and remembers where and why he came to this planet. Humility of the soul means complete acceptance of the Lord in your heart and awareness of your mission, which is to continuously work on your qualities. Humility helps a person to sincerely serve the Lord and all living beings. A humble person sincerely believes that everything that happens in this world happens according to the Divine will. This understanding helps a person to always maintain peace and tranquility in his soul.
In dealing with other people, a humble person never evaluates, compares, denies or ignores the nature of another person. He accepts people as they are. Full acceptance is a conscious and attentive attitude towards another. It is necessary to accept everything as it is not with the mind, but with the soul. The mind constantly evaluates and analyzes, and the soul is the eye of the Lord himself.
Humility and patience are very close concepts, but still have different interpretations.
What is patience?
Throughout life, a person has to experience not only joyful experiences. Difficulties also come into his life that he must first come to terms with. These difficulties cannot always be overcome in a short time. This is what patience is needed for. Humility and patience are the true virtues that the Lord himself endows a person with. It is sometimes said that patience is necessary in order to control negativity. But it's not right. A patient person does not hold anything back, he simply accepts everything calmly and even in the most difficult situations maintains clarity of mind.
Jesus Christ himself showed true patience. Also, Christ the Savior is a real example of true humility. For the sake of a higher goal, He endured persecution and even crucifixion. Has he ever been angry or wished harm on anyone? No. Likewise, a person who follows the commandments of the Lord must meekly endure all the difficulties on his life’s path.
How is patience related to humility?
What humility and patience are was described above. Are these two concepts related? There is an inextricable connection between patience and humility. Their essence is the same. A person is at peace and also feels peace and tranquility inside. This is not an external manifestation, but an internal one. It happens that outwardly a person seems calm and satisfied, but inside he is raging indignation, dissatisfaction and anger. In this case, we are not talking about any humility and patience. It's more of a hypocrisy. Nothing can hinder a humble and patient person. Such a person overcomes even the greatest difficulties easily. Humility and patience are connected like two bird wings. Without a humble state it is impossible to endure difficulties.
Internal and external signs of humility
The concept of “humility” is best revealed in the works of St. Isaac the Syrian. It is not so easy to distinguish between the external and internal aspects of humility. Because some follow from others. It all starts with the inner life, the peace within. External actions are only a reflection of the internal state. Of course, today you can see a lot of hypocrisy. When outwardly a person seems calm, but inside he has raging passions. We are not talking about humility here.
Inner Signs of Humility
- Meekness.
- Composure.
- Mercy.
- Chastity.
- Obedience.
- Patience.
- Fearlessness.
- Shyness.
- Awe.
- Inner peace.
The last point is considered the main sign of humility. Inner peace is expressed in the fact that a person completely lacks fear of everyday difficulties, but has confidence in God’s grace, which will always protect him. A humble person does not know haste, confusion and confused thoughts. There is always peace within him. And even if the sky falls to the ground, a humble person will not even be afraid.
An important sign of inner humility is the voice of a person’s conscience, which tells him that the Lord and other people are not to blame for the failures and difficulties encountered on the path of life. When a person first of all makes claims against himself, this is true humility. Blaming others or worse yet the Lord for your failures is the highest degree of ignorance and hardness of heart.
External signs of humility
- A truly humble person has no interest in various worldly comforts and entertainments.
- He strives to quickly get away from the noisy, bustling place.
- A humble person is not interested in going to places with large crowds of people, meetings, rallies, concerts and other public events.
- Solitude and silence are the main signs of humility. Such a person never enters into disputes and conflicts, does not abandon unnecessary words and does not engage in meaningless conversations.
- Does not have external wealth or much property.
- True humility is manifested in the fact that a person never talks about it or flaunts his position. He hides his wisdom from the whole world.
- Simple speech, high thinking.
- He does not notice the shortcomings of other people, but always sees the merits of everyone.
- He is not inclined to listen to what his soul does not want.
- Resignedly endures insults and humiliation.
A humble person does not compare himself to anyone, but considers everyone better than himself.
A series of brochures under the general title “Christian View” was compiled on the basis of the manuscript of a course of lectures on moral theology by the talented church scientist and writer G. I. Shimansky (1915-1970). “The Christian View” is not just a statement of theoretical principles, but a story about the way of life befitting a Christian, about moral guidelines in the modern world.The brochure talks about the importance and necessity of patience, this most important Christian virtue, and the ways to acquire it. Published in abbreviation.
Concept of the virtue of patience
Name of patience in Greek — ύπομον ή — in its philological meaning means “perseverance” under action (pressure) from outside. Latin church writers, for example the Monk John Cassian, associate the concept of patience with the subject of patience. Patience- patientia - gets its name from suffering and transferring them . Saint John Chrysostom defines patience as “the skill of enduring everything” .
The virtue of patience is inextricably linked with all Christian virtues and the entire structure of a Christian’s spiritual life. It is in close connection with zeal for a godly life and with constancy in goodness. Blessed Diadochos and other holy fathers combine the virtue of patience with humility. Humility is the source of patience, it is the parent and guardian of patience .
Saint Tikhon of Zadonsk in the virtue of patience notes devotion to the will of God and His holy providence .
According to Blessed Diadochus, patience is constant firmness of spirit, united with the aspiration of the spiritual eyes of the ascetic towards God. This definition of patience is made in relation to the spiritual state of the ascetic (firmness and courage of the soul) and his attitude towards God, for whose sake he endures; That is why it is called patience because of God, who sends for his benefit what he must endure.
The hallmark of a patient person is courage. “He who does not have courage in his soul will not have patience.” The Venerable Nile of Sinai, John Cassian, the ascetic Evagrius of Pontus, Blessed Antiochus (beginning of the 7th century), St. Tikhon of Zadonsk and other holy fathers point out in patience this basic trait: courage, fearlessness of soul and readiness to endure sorrows without complaint, willingly and generously. temptations from people, passions and demons.
According to this property of patience, it is closely related to meekness, having in itself such properties of the soul as generosity and self-sacrifice. Saint Gregory the Theologian points out that “he is generous who endures everything with complacency, and does not endure even a little — a sign of cowardice" .
According to the Monk Seraphim of Sarov, Christian “asceticism requires patience and generosity... Patience is diligence of the soul, and diligence consists of both voluntary labor and enduring involuntary (sorrowful) temptations. The law of patience is the love of work; relying on them, the mind hopes to receive the promise of future benefits." .
The most complete definition of patience is given by Bishop Theophan: “Patience has two sides: being turned inward, it is constancy in goodness, and in this respect is not determined by anything external, but is an inseparable and everlasting feature of a good mood. Being turned to the cow, it is endurance, enduring all difficulties encountered on the good path or during fulfillment of good undertakings ripening within. This trait of patience cannot manifest itself if there are no sorrows.” .
According to the holy fathers, the following definition of patience can be made: it is constancy in goodness, firmness and courage of the soul, manifested in the uncomplaining, willing and generous enduring of life’s difficulties, sorrows and temptations, allowed by God to teach a Christian humility, love and devotion to the will of God and His Holy Providence.
Patience comes from enduring tribulations(see: Rom 5, 3). The Holy Fathers point out that patiently enduring sorrows does not mean a Christian’s complete indifference, indifference, or complete insensitivity to them. On the contrary, feeling the full weight of suffering, deprivation, grief and other sorrows befalling him, a Christian, however, without grumbling, embarrassment and anger, steadfastly and cheerfully endures them for the sake of God, surrendering himself to the will of God in everything .
There is no patience in someone who, due to any external inconveniences and sorrows in life, “becomes faint-hearted to the point of exhaustion.” .
Tribulation befalls both godly and wicked people. But only pious Christians endure them patiently and generously.
How to get rid of resentment?
First of all, we need to understand that our life is a school, and everything that the Lord allows us - sorrows, temptations - are lessons, they are necessary in order to develop patience, humility, and get rid of pride and resentment. And the Lord, when He allows them to us, looks at how we behave: whether we will be offended or whether we will maintain peace in our souls. Why are we offended? This means that we deserved it, we sinned in some way...
In order for there to be no resentment or irritation, so that the soul can rest in God, one must endure a lot from one’s neighbors - reproach, insults, and all sorts of troubles. You need to be able to face this without snapping at the offender. There is no need to say barbs if you are insulted. Just think to yourself: “The Lord gave me the opportunity to strengthen myself in patience so that my soul would calm down.” And our soul will calm down. And if we start: “Why is he slandering me, lying, insulting me? Me!..” And we’ll go peddling. It is the spirit of Satan that lives in man.
We will never calm down if we do not learn to endure. Let's become hysterical. If someone insulted us, offended us, there is no need to collect information for a retaliatory attack, there is no need to obtain “compromising evidence” on this person in different corners: “Here, he is like this and like that...”; there is no need to wait for the right moment to pour this slop on his head. A Christian, if he finds out that this guy is speaking badly about him, must immediately humble himself: “Lord, Your will! Because of my sins, this is what I need! It’s okay, we’ll survive. Everything will grind to a halt!” We must educate ourselves. Otherwise, someone said something, and we cannot calm down until we tell our neighbor everything we think about him. And Satan whispers these “thoughts” in our ears, and we repeat all sorts of dirt after him. A Christian must be a peacemaker, bringing only peace and love to everyone. There should be no nastiness - no resentment, no irritation - in a person. Why are we discouraged? Not from holiness, of course! That’s why we get discouraged because we make a lot of fools, we take too much into our heads, we see only the sins of our neighbor, but we don’t notice our own. We sow the sins of others, but from idle talk, from condemnation, the grace of God departs from man, and he likens himself to wordless creatures. And here everything can be expected from a person. Such a soul will never receive peace and quiet. A Christian, if he sees some shortcomings around him, tries to cover everything with love. He doesn’t tell anyone, he doesn’t spread dirt anywhere. He smooths out and covers the sins of others so that a person does not become embittered, but corrects himself. It is said by the holy fathers: “Cover your brother’s sin, and the Lord will cover yours.” And there is a type of people who, if they notice something, immediately try to spread it to other people, to other souls. At this time, a person exalts himself: “How wise I am! I know everything and I don’t do that.” And this is the uncleanliness of the soul. This is a dirty soul. Christians don't behave like that. They don't see other people's sins. The Lord said: “To the clean all things are pure” (Titus 1:15), but to the dirty all things are dirty.
No patience, how to find it?
You have to learn patience. Now, we have bruised our leg until it bleeds - we need to calmly get up, cross the sore spot, saying: “In the Name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen... This is what you need for your sins. Let this pain remind you of the torments of hell.” They hammered a nail with a hammer and hit their finger - there is no need to throw the hammer and get angry at someone. Calmly put the hammer down, cross your finger, blow on it and say: “Nothing, calm down. This is good for your patience. It will pass, everything will grind.” And this is how it happens: the driver starts the car, but it doesn’t start, he pulls out the handle and lets it hit and beat the car, and throw obscenities at it. Here, of course, the demons will help - the car will start when the driver is already losing his temper. And we need to be patient. We are standing at the bus stop, waiting for the tram, but it still isn’t there; and no car, no bus... And we have a train ticket in our pocket. No need to worry, be calm and even. Even if we don't have money for a second ticket. What will you do? Thank God, that means it’s necessary. And at this time we must maintain peace of mind, not worry, endure... If someone scolds us or cleanses us, we must internally rejoice: the cleansing of our soul is underway. Always judge yourself, so you will gain patience. If you don’t want to get up in the morning, you have to jump up immediately. Do not want? Get up, quickly! So you need to jump up so that laziness remains under the blanket. Don't feel like working? This means the demon is sitting astride you, his legs dangling. Do you have no health? Young, but not healthy? This means you have to work hard. Then one day an eighteen-year-old novice in our monastery said: “Father, I’m sick.” - “What hurts you?” - “Head, arms, legs, stomach, everything hurts...” I looked at dinner - and she eats so much! For ten. The reason why everything hurts is clear. I called her and said: “Come on, dear, do 100 bows.” - “Oh, father, it’s hard.” - “Nothing. You will go to the monastery, you will work, there all your “illness” will go away in an instant.” She worked for a month and arrived: “It’s so good! I eat with gusto and feel great.” The body is filled with strength, and nothing hurts.
How to gain patience? How to fight sin if it stings incessantly, with impunity?
It is very valuable that a person intends to fight. It happens that a person is so overwhelmed by vices and passions and they torment him so much that he begins to break the commandments of God.
Imagine: a man fell off a cliff. If he does not have time to catch on to the stone, he will fly down. Everything works in the same way in spiritual life. If a person has failed in one temptation, that is, committed some kind of sin, he must immediately repent before the Lord. Otherwise, this sin, like a snowball, will attract other passions, other sins. Until I get to confession, I must ask the Lord: “God, be merciful to me, a sinner! Forgive me and have mercy! I have sinned and transgressed Your commandment! Lord, forgive and have mercy on me!” And at the first opportunity, without delaying for long, go to confession to a priest and bring repentance.
What is the value of confession? When we come and repent, complain to God about the devil who has tempted us and attacks us, the Lord forbids him to lead us into temptation. The Lord knows: what we did not see in ourselves before, we found, discovered the vice in our soul, repented of sin, confessed to Him, and He, in His great mercy, forgives us our uncleanness, our sin and gives us grace-filled strength to fight it sin.
Patience is our first assistant in the fight against passions. The first time it is difficult for a person to gather his courage and give up his intention to sin. After repentance, he may fall again, and then he needs to repent again. And so on until the time comes and the person completely gets rid of this passion. In times of fall, prayer and heartfelt contrition are especially important.
The great Russian writer F.M. Dostoevsky was deeply devoted to Orthodoxy. However, he had a weakness - a passion for playing roulette. He traveled abroad and played there. I couldn't get rid of this passion. But one morning I woke up and felt completely disgusted with the game. The Lord had mercy on him and freed his soul from the destructive passion of gambling. Why? Because he constantly repented of his weakness.
We need to learn to tolerate ourselves, without despondency, without despair, and constantly work on ourselves: “Good deeds and work will crush everything in life.”
A year ago I started going to church. Spiritual contact was established with the priest, but the parishioners somehow did not accept me. And in another temple I feel calm, but I don’t feel that it is close to me. In which temple should I pray?
If they throw verbal mud at us, why don’t we be patient? After all, it is a kind of treasure when we are scolded and slandered for our good deeds.
You must go to church until you receive spiritual recovery. And it will come when you don’t care whether you are scolded or praised, and then you will rejoice at the reproaches, accept them as deserved for your sins.
We feel resentment when our soul is sick. She needs to be treated with such “mud baths”. You must tolerate scolders, prepare yourself in advance, in the morning or even in the evening, that today you will be scolded. Tell yourself: “The devil sees that I am here praying, saving myself, confessing well and cleansing myself. He wants to drive me out of this temple. But I will not leave. God will help me, and I will endure.” Set yourself up like this: the day on which I was not scolded was in vain.
At work, the boss literally mocks people. There is no way to approach him - neither in a good way nor in a bad way. How to endure when it’s already unbearable?
No matter what kind of person he is, even the most notorious bandit, in his soul “a fire glimmers beneath the ashes.” You just need to be able to blow on this spark, and then, perhaps, turn the light into a flame. Pray for him and try to bring him into a state of goodwill and even faith.
Anything can happen in relations between subordinates and superiors. It happens that superiors also suffer from their subordinates.
I'll tell you this story. One day a fox ran through the forest. And suddenly he sees a baby snake lying on the path, dying of thirst. She took pity and got him food and water. She brought it back to life and began to feed it. And the little snake came to life. They became so friendly that it became impossible to spill the water.
Time has passed. The baby snake grew into a large snake. One day they needed to cross the river. Snake says:
I'm afraid to swim, the river is so fast, it could carry me away.
Lisa suggested:
Well, wrap yourself around me and put your head on mine. So the two of us will swim across.
Let's swim. We swam to the middle of the river, the snake suddenly says:
Listen, fox! I want to sting you.
“Now,” the fox answers, “is not the time to engage in chatter, we must swim quickly.”
There is very little left to the shore. Snake says:
Can `t stand. I'll sting you anyway.
The fox began to remind him:
Remember who you were? You were dying. I fed you, raised you, and suddenly you want to bite me.
And I want it so much.
Well, then turn to me, I want to look into your shameless eyes for the last time, and then bite.
The snake turned its head towards her. She grabs him! By the collar and onto the shore, she crushed her and threw her off. She pulled it along the shore and said:
Like this! Stop wagging. Friendship should be direct.
There are such cases: the boss will take kindly to some person, provide him with help, and that ungrateful person will repay all the good with evil. Sometimes he will even push you out of your seat and become the boss himself. Or he will steal all the money. Outwit. Such people are in last place with God. If they do not repent, eternal fire awaits them.
True patience never runs out. And what bursts is the bubble of personal ambitions
Hello,
How to learn humility and patience? You probably remember the wonderful expression “ entertainment psychology" Even here you met him several times.
Such psychology to the question how to learn patience, answers something like this. " Try to distract yourself. Think about something else. Try counting to ten.»
It's funny, isn't it?
After all, it is clear that a person who really strives to gain humility does not want to “try to switch to something pleasant.” Because it is an escape from the problem. You know, when everything is raging inside, and I am outwardly very positive.
Today we will take a different route.
It's difficult to learn something without understanding how it works. It is impossible to learn humility if you do not know what it is. It is impossible to acquire the skill of patience without understanding that patience can be true and false.
What is the difference between dull patience and real humility?
How to learn patience?
Eat stupid patience. Eat conscious. What is the difference?
Dumb patience is when we internally disagree with what we have.
We endure stupidly and tensely, thinking: we need to be humble, we need to endure, this is my lesson.
However, this is not the most promising position in life. The inner position of the student gives us much greater potential. The position of a student is when we have a value system according to which everything that comes into life is favorable. Why?
Because it comes from a higher source.
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And when there is this conviction, this understanding of how life works... that there is a Higher loving principle, and I am a part of it... and everything that is given to me is given for my growth and development - if there is this conviction, pay attention, patience becomes something completely different.
It becomes soft. No hate.
It all depends on whether our character has initial beliefs about how the world works and what my relationships are in it.
There is patience with hatred. There is patience with love. A big difference.
So, if there is no position of a student - no matter what we do, doing psychology or other esoteric practice - we will not get any true results. Because the position itself is false.
Even patience is a good quality that is glorified in different cultures- But if this is patience with hatred, then the more I endure, the more angry I become about what is happening. Have you noticed?
And how will such patience end?
Explosion. With a splash. Maybe even inappropriate aggression.
How to learn humility?
True humility is based on this understanding of how the world and life work. On the fact that the most favorable thing is here.
You just need to open up and accept. Look for a lesson in problems, not condemn.
Every situation teaches us. And a manifestation of pride is when I don’t like something, asking the question “Why is this?” But the position of humility is a different question: “Why, why did this come into my life?”...
How do you perceive this?
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Based on the training by Oleg Gadetsky “Freedom and self-realization. Transformation of negative beliefs"