Children themselves choose their parents before birth article. How the soul of a child comes into our world and chooses parents
The question is, of course, esoteric. Science has reliably proven that every person is a set of genetic information of his ancestors, no more, no less.
But people who are inclined to believe in the incredible and inexplicable believe that children choose their parents long before earthly birth, and that parents in this case cannot change anything, only help their child to follow the path that he has chosen.
Gentlemen scientists Mendel, Morgan and Vavilov “would be delighted” with such theories. However, there are many cases in the world where only the theory that children come to us from the universe of their own free will can explain why good, educated, kind and attentive parents raised a thief and a murderer.
We, adults who have decided to give birth to a child, have no influence on anything other than the function of guiding his soul into the physical world. Brad, really? Or is there something to it? What do you think?
An excerpt from Tamara Globa’s book “Morning of Life”:
“Children choose their parents in order to come to Earth to receive the lessons they need on the Path of evolution for further development. I foresee the question: how?! What about abandoned children who have no parents or whose parents are drunkards? What can they teach a child?!
“Put down the surveyor” and look deep into your mind: this is a lesson in self-reliance. Fate either punished or rewarded a person - after going through such a hard school of life, he will become ten times wiser and stronger than many.
In one life he will make an evolutionary leap ten lives forward, but he can also become embittered with the whole world, become a thief, a drunkard, a murderer and a sadist, and slide down to the point of being unrecognizable as a vile insect. As if his next incarnation would not be an intelligent cockroach...
The lesson is hard, but this does not mean that our task is to calmly watch as a person “perishes.” His independence lies in the freedom to choose good and evil, and the task of those around him is to lend a helping hand.”
There is a reasonable grain in this theory. Because every person comes into this world with a unique mission. What it consists of is another question. But I don’t doubt for a minute that each of us grew up not just to eat, drink and love.
Great purpose
Some people have a great destiny - to discover a cure for cancer, create a solar-powered car, develop a new coding language, or invent a way to travel through time.
Some are born to write books about raising children or perform volunteer missions in African countries. For some, simply living an honest and decent life is enough.
But what are murderers, rapists, thieves and extremists for? And how is it that one parent gets, conditionally, good child, and others - real punishment? How can one even see that purpose in a child? And does this mean that an aggressive teenager needs to be isolated from society before he ruins someone's life?
I always want to find an explanation for everything. If you understand, you know how to act. But the catch is that life can be completely illogical. Parents of one child read books about positive parenting, give freedom of choice and do not use punishment.
The second’s parents pull out their belts at every opportunity, pay little attention and impose their unrealized ambitions. The former grow up to be a smart, cold-blooded criminal, the latter – a merciful and quiet nurse.
Much more often the opposite happens. Drunkards grow up to be drunkards, because the whole world for a child is rivers of alcohol with a distorted reality. The ballerina and the mathematician grow, so to speak, the ballerina and the mathematician, until one of the two takes over.
In my opinion, from the theory that children choose us themselves, the main idea is not to interfere with their path by imposing your own ideas about who they should become. Children definitely don't owe us anything.
Win-win lottery
We can help them discover who they want to be! And channel this desire in a constructive direction. But for this you need to work on yourself a little. As one wise English proverb says: “Don’t educate your children, they will still be like you, educate yourself.”
Remember how your parents influenced you and what you learned from them? How were your ancestral traditions passed on to you? It's not that simple, right? Perhaps you have become an exact copy of your mother or father and are now raising a child exactly like your grandfather or grandmother.
Or you have radically estranged yourself from your parents, and are raising your child in such a way that he, too, will one day fly out of the nest as a bird of a different feather. But then don't ask him why he behaves differently from the way you raised him, and don't demand that he act in a way you didn't teach him.
Are children a lottery? Yes, but only if you are a player.
P.S. For leisure reading and reflection, I highly recommend two books: “The Price of Unloving” by Lionel Shriver and “Children from Heaven” by John Gray.
Milena Aleynikova
Dear readers! How do you prefer to raise your child: carrot or stick? Is it worth prohibiting a child from singing and enrolling him in biology clubs, since everyone in the family is a doctor? We are waiting for your answers in the comments!
I’m impressed... I read it in one sitting...
As for the soul, many spiritual teachers say that it is a particle of the one divine soul, the release of souls occurs in groups (maybe someone will be lucky to find their “one-spirited soulmate”)
These souls fly around the earth and look after their parents. Some to be born and live, some to atone for the sins of a past life, some to teach a lesson to failed parents. And when the soul finally finds a mate and moves into the fetus, and this happens on 3 -5 days from conception she already knows what will happen to the fetus next and how life will turn out if a person is born.
The soul, being in “heaven”, voluntarily chooses for itself a lesson in life on earth, striving to learn in practice what is known to it in theory; only by incarnating in the body can it feel and perceive, learn the whole gamut of experiences, passions, joys and fears.
All people leave this world with a certain experience and acquired sins (karma). Depending on how much of this karma he has, he gets to this level (in esotericism there is no concept of “heaven” and “hell” as in Christianity, there are simply “levels”). The higher the level, the better and, accordingly, the richer the choice.
Getting “there” people (or rather souls, and everyone without exception) are given a choice - they can stay there, or they can be born again. Many remain. But even at the highest levels (simply called paradise), not everyone likes to exist. The soul retains character, disposition, sense of humor and all the characteristics inherent in a living person. But she is deprived of earthly pleasures. Souls go to earth to enjoy these pleasures. Such souls like to be born into rich families, such as royal families in stable and developed countries.
Souls living on the lower and middle levels strive to earth, as a rule, in order to atone for their sins (in the literal sense - to start life anew), to realize themselves, to reach a new level. But they are given limited conditions of birth - dysfunctional families, devastated countries. Some children, as already mentioned, are born in order to re-educate their parents - this is also part of the mission, because everyone has their own mission with which they come into this world.
You need to be very careful. A child from the top level ends up in a rich family, quickly gets used to luxury, succumbs to temptations, and at the end of his life finds himself at the lowest levels for the sins he committed during his life, for nothing spoils a person more than wealth. And vice versa - a child from a dysfunctional family fully fulfills his duty on earth and the soul in the next reincarnation reaches a higher level, writes www.baby.ru.
The highest level to which, in theory, all souls should strive is the last level. Souls from this level, even having been born in bodily form, remember all their previous lives (by the way, many children under 5-7 years old remember, but then forget) and can leave this world at any time and return to it at any time, but there are only a few such people.
Sometimes, having incarnated on earth, the soul almost immediately returns, and then the child dies. From an earthly point of view, this is cruel and is mourned by the parents, but the soul knows that it has taught them a lesson that will be fixed in their consciousness and will elevate them spiritually. This is part of their earthly mission, also chosen voluntarily by them in “heaven”
Personally, I believe in all sorts of omens, dreams... eh...
According to the stories of mothers (from the forum):
****One woman told me that her son is 6 years old. once said: “Mom, I was sitting in heaven, there were a lot of us there, and then God asked: Who do you want to be born to, and I chose you and dad.” I told this to another woman, and she said to me: “ You know, I had something similar. When my eldest son was about four years old, we were walking in the park. I was sitting on a bench, and he was rolling a car, and then suddenly he raised his head and said: “Mom, I was an old grandfather, and everything hurt so much, I felt so bad, and then I was born to you and my dad!” So I’m thinking about how not to believe after that... And about the children of drunkards, abortions, etc. I know that since this happens, it means that we are being pointed at something, we just can’t always understand what!
****the thing is that when I was B., I didn’t fully realize that I was finally B.!!! And my husband too... and all the signs were there, whims and everything, but at that time we were finishing the project... I was very tired after official work and wanted to sleep, and my husband insisted that we had to go to another job (our personal one) and talk to customers... as a result, one day I was so tired and angry in the evening that I started arguing with my husband because of his (in my opinion) cruelty, that he doesn’t think about me or the child (in theory, it’s us he’s talking about) I thought when I went to negotiate with me that the money would be completely ours)… in a fit of anger, I blurted out the phrase - “maybe I should have an abortion before the time is up? Maybe we are not ready to become parents yet? Since you don’t know how to put me and the baby in the first place!!!” the scandal, of course, passed, my husband didn’t really get involved in it... I was the only one swearing... but the words were spoken and it was no longer possible to take them back... after that I don’t know exactly what period of time, but I had an ST...
like this... so it’s not in vain that they say - we ourselves are the architects of our own happiness and the word is certainly not a sparrow...
LETTER FROM A BABY TO MOM.
Dear mommy!
Storks flew to us today. I knew about their arrival a week in advance and was preparing. In the morning I took out my suitcase and put all my things there. And then I decided to refresh myself on the path; the path ahead was long. He hesitated. I come running, and the flock is already in the sky...
Mommy, forgive me, I know how much you are waiting for me, worrying about when I will fly, but I am still not there. That’s why I immediately decided to write you a letter and tell you how we kids live here, getting along while waiting for our stork. My dear mom! Don’t worry, I’m not alone here, there are thousands, millions of us here, it’s impossible to count. And everyone is waiting for their stork. Some babies are so impatient, they want to get to their parents so much that they beg visiting storks to take them to them. But storks cannot refuse, they are kind, and this is their job. We see these kids off and hope that their parents are waiting for them.
But it happens that their parents are still almost children themselves or their mothers do not feel very well and cannot accept them yet, and then they send such children back. Mom, you should have seen how sad these kids are when they come back. We try to console them and cheer them up as best we can. After all, everyone here knows that after some time these same kids will go to the same parents, who will already be looking forward to them.
Mommy, you are so funny, you believe some unimaginable signs. I’ve even prepared a pacifier. Do you really think that I will covet some kind of pacifier?!
Although she is beautiful, I don't argue. In fact, I chose you a long time ago, my beloved, kindest, sweetest mother. And I will come exactly to you. Very soon. But, if it’s easier for you, then buy pacifiers, draw second stripes on the tests, maybe this will actually somehow hurry up our stork.
My beloved mom, just don’t worry about me, don’t cry, don’t be sad. Next time I won't miss my stork. It’s better if I fly home hungry, you’ll feed me, I know. Mom, as soon as I sit on the stork, I will immediately send you two stripes by telegram, and you will know approximately what dates to expect me.
Oh, yes, we’ll see you again at the ultrasound, I’ll wave my hand to you, and you’ll be completely calm about me. And we will meet at the Visiting House, where all mothers usually meet their babies. Although I still can’t say anything, I will look into your tender eyes, and you will understand how much I LOVE YOU, MOMMY.
See you soon, Your Baby"
We present an excerpt from a lesson with students of the Institute of Reincarnation.
From it you will learn how they chose their parents.
The abortion secret is revealed!
The topic of abortion is very painful for many women. And in the public space there are many clashes and discussions on this issue. Politicians, religious leaders, psychotherapists, doctors express a variety of and sometimes very contradictory opinions.
However, the decision in each case is made by the woman, and her future life and fate depend on it.
Then what is abortion from the point of view of the soul?
What happens to the soul of an unborn child, and what happens to the soul of his failed mother?
It turns out that the soul of a child undergoing an abortion knows in advance that it will face such a choice.
And this soul has a choice: either to be born, or to quickly go through its experience of life in an unborn body and, returning back to the World of Souls, choose a backup option.
The question of how a child’s soul chooses its future parents gives rise to a whole chain of questions:
The soul of our unborn child, who is she?
What do we even know about the soul?
Does she somehow influence her future parents?
Can future parents choose and attract the soul of their unborn child?
Why are physically healthy couples infertile?
The answers to all these questions are found in the Holy Vedic Scriptures.
As the law of Karma states, the present is the consequence of the past and the cause of the future. This means that our future directly depends on how we dispose of the fruits of our past activities. This all applies to souls preparing to be born on Earth. The soul has almost no right to choose; it gets its parents by Karma. The soul incarnates in order to improve itself and gain experience of life in our rough material conditions. Memory is taken away at birth and everything starts from scratch, a little man comes into this world innocent, but with “baggage” received in past lives. All this is necessary so that he can make a free choice in his new life. So, a person goes through life, encountering various difficulties, gaining very important experience and thereby improving. But you need to know one thing - the principle of existence on Earth is love. Love this world, and then it will answer you in kind. It is very good when a person’s parents help him understand this truth.
A soul that performed few good deeds in its past incarnation may be immature (green). Her destiny is an unplanned pregnancy, with which it is still unknown what will be done. It depends on your luck.
If the soul has developed spiritually and accumulated Piety, then it can itself raise the future father and mother.
The soul has 3 energies:
Sat is eternity (immortality);
Chit is knowledge (the soul cannot live without knowledge);
Ananda – happiness (endless). Consciously or unconsciously, we always strive for happiness.
Sat Chit Ananda (Sanskrit).
While the soul is outside the body, it clearly knows that it wants to come to that family where it will be provided with all the conditions for understanding the world and in which it can be happy. If her parents cannot yet provide her with such conditions, then she arranges for them various strength tests. For example, sending meetings where they can show compassion, charity, care; providing the necessary information for study (about raising a child, family relationships, etc.).
The soul will definitely come to the family: in which the spouses accept everything that comes, ask her to come to them now, promise to love and accept the child as he will be, perform austerities (for example, stop poisoning their body with nicotine and alcohol), forgive insults, engage in charity, bring love to everyone, show great care for their parents and the people around them. This will happen even if the doctors have already made their final verdict - infertility.
Can spouses “receive” a more developed, blissful soul than the one that already hovers above them? Yes they can! But only if this married couple has embarked on the path of spiritual development. To do this, it is not enough to just study the scriptures; you need to change your lifestyle. When the spouses feel that the time has come to prepare for conception, they choose a favorable time of year, be sure to recognize all past sins (which must certainly be repented of), and make a sacrifice (for example: repeat the prayer “I wish everyone Happiness!” for 5 or 10 minutes per day, or another of their choice). And then a bright personality, a genius and even a demigod can come to them.
We all often wonder why some families have children and others do not. It’s as if there are no visible health problems, but still no children.
There is a hypothesis that children choose their own parents and the time when they will appear in the family. As they say, all the time.
After all, children come into our lives to teach us something. May look at life differently. Or it can show what you really need to value.
This is told by the mother of 3-year-old Kiryusha, from whom I heard all these stories.
“I was cooking lunch in order to somehow distract the child and make the fidget sit quietly for a while, I gave him all the photographs I had stored. And then my son runs up to me with a black and white photograph of me in my youth with my mother (who died shortly before Kiryusha was born) and says: “Mom, I remember you and yours here.” a green dress! You missed the bus that day!” My eyes are wide open - I ask: “Son, how do you know? Did dad tell you? - no, he says: “I saw you from above, they showed you to me and said that you would be my mother!” - after that I started asking my friends and acquaintances about this phenomenon and it turned out that not only my child “remembers” how he looked at his mother from somewhere before he was born.
My friend secretly told me how her daughter recently said: “Mom, grandpa with the lush red beard said hello to you all and said that he was praying for you!” The grandfather with the red beard is this woman’s great-grandfather; she saw him only as a little girl, and the only black and white photo of poor quality was kept in her mother’s albums. They weren’t exactly shown to my daughters; a child at that age isn’t interested in looking at black and white photos when there are bright books. Therefore, after talking with the mother, the women came to the conclusion that the daughter really saw her great-great-grandfather before she was born!
Then, on the playground, I got into a conversation with another young mother. She told how her son described how they were shown uncles and aunts on some screens and they chose their parents.
Another mother of 4-year-old Mashenka told how her daughter said: “and when they sent me to your tummy, an angel flew in and said that they would name me in honor of a good aunt who would help me.” The girl did not know that when her mother was pregnant, one day, shortly before giving birth, she slipped and fell, one woman helped her, took her to the hospital and was there until she found out that everything was fine. In honor of that woman, my mother decided to name her daughter Mashenka!
The most amazing story, in my opinion, is about the girl Katenka, at the age of 2.5 years she told her parents that 2 more boys had chosen her mother and father along with her. But one was not allowed to choose these parents, and the second was told to prepare. A year later, the woman had a miscarriage - they lost a boy. And 2 years later they gave birth to a healthy son. They remembered the little daughter’s prediction and somehow shared it with us.
These are the wonderful stories I heard from a friend. For now, my child is small and doesn’t speak, but who knows what he will tell me when he gets a little older! I believe that we are sent to Earth by angels and that children can choose their parents up there!”
Click " Like» and get the best posts on Facebook!
In some Eastern traditions, it is customary to count the age of a child from the moment of his conception. Thus, the baby is born at the age of one. According to the East Asian account, three more months are added to the nine months spent in the womb, during which the soul of the unborn baby hovers near the expectant mother. It has been repeatedly noted that 2-3 months before pregnancy, sensitive women see very realistic dreams. Talking about their premonitions, they claim that they saw in detail the image of the unborn child and spoke with him. Many have noted the feeling of the constant presence of an invisible soul even before the actual conception. In this regard, the question arises: “Does a child choose his parents even before birth?”
The soul of a child before conception from the point of view of reincarnation
According to the Higher Laws, the future incarnation of the soul is predetermined by the actions that a person performs in this life. When the time comes for reincarnation, nothing can be changed. The soul incarnates to fulfill a certain program and move from one level of development to another. She has no choice regarding her future parents. The exception is souls of high spiritual development. They are in no hurry to return to earthly existence, since material wealth attracts them to a lesser extent. Feeling the need for a new incarnation, souls of high spirituality consciously choose where and with whom to be born.
Communication with the soul of the unborn child
The soul visits future parents not only just before conception. Even constant presence nearby does not mean that she is completely ready for embodiment. Sometimes it takes a lot of time to prepare. Sometimes efforts are required from both parents to create conditions in which the child can realize himself and fulfill his karmic tasks. They must not only take care of the material aspect, but also be ready to teach the baby to interact with the outside world and adapt to it. Only after this does the child’s soul begin to communicate with its mother and father through dreams and premonitions.
While the soul is outside the body, it can observe for a long time the behavior of the members of the family in which it will live. She can even arrange tests for her potential parents in which virtues (compassion, the ability to forgive, care, etc.) must be demonstrated. For example, spouses who have embarked on the path of spiritual and moral development, have every chance of “receiving” a highly spiritual soul. Adherents of reincarnation are confident that the soul can even come to couples to whom doctors have pronounced a terrible sentence - infertility.
Particular attention is paid to the internal state of the partners. In the theory of reincarnation, it is believed that the fears and doubts of parents delay the birth of a child. A woman who subconsciously denies the possibility of having children drowns out the instinct of motherhood. For all nine months, the child is completely dependent on the mother, including her emotional state. This is why it is so important to communicate mentally and vocally with the fetus. If the soul feels that the baby will be unwanted, will not be welcomed and will not be loved, the threat of miscarriage increases.